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HerTake: An Advice Column with Nina Badzin for Women at Midlife
Looking for practical advice in a compassionate tone that won’t use your predicament as a jumping off point for a rant or a personal essay? You’ve come to the right place. For three years Nina Badzin gave HerStories readers sound, actionable friendship advice.
With our relaunch into new topics on the site, our advice column is expanding, too. Nina will still take questions about friendship, but she will also take letters about all the relationship issues we face at midlife, even the ones we have with ourselves and the choices we want to make for the future. And you know what comes along with Nina’s advice? The two cents of our smart, thoughtful readers.
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I have a friend I’ve been friends with for about 7 years. She’s a good person very helpful and always looking to help her friends if help is needed. The issue is she only texts me never calls and would send a voice message via text. We do hang out in person so I’m puzzled of why she refuse to talk on the phone because of her home situation she would send 50+ texts and that’s so overwhelming and I have stated several times to please call because that number of texts means u need to talk and that should be a phone call. She says she don’t talk in the phone because of in the past a guy broke up with her over the phone and her mother is verbally abusive to her. But we are in our 30’s. Her mom is so manipulative that she drops everything to get her stupid things like a glass so she can drink wine. She left the movies to do that. So these texts in my opinion is depressing it’s always about how her mom treats her which is badly so she refuse to talk on the phone and says when she has good news she will call but then bombards me with 50+ texts not even asking how my day is just going into her depressed life and how her mom puts her down but she never stands up to her but just sits and cry. I mean she’s almost 40 at some point she had to get a backbone and stop being so weak then complaining to her friends. I have tried to be supportive but it’s getting unbelievable to read. At this point I don’t read her paragraph texts. When I bring this up she says once she makes her grand escape from her mom she will call. But the thing is she’s not working and wants to move out of state with less then $1000. I’ve tried to make her see that she needs a job to move and these texts is very very overwhelming she’s not understanding of where I’m coming from.