HerTake: When a Close Friend Does Not Support Your Passion

HerTake: When a Close Friend Does Not Support Your Passion

Today’s question is from a writer and blogger wondering how to handle a close friend who is dismissive of her work. It may seem like this question and answer is specific to one profession, but it’s really for all people who feel that a close friend or family member is disinterested or even hostile towards an important piece of their lives.

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 Dear Nina,

I recently started writing and trying to get my work published in various online and print magazines and newspapers. I’ve had some early success with credible publications–what I call my “small wins.” I’ve wanted to write (outside my previous day job) for years, so this is a huge deal for me.

One of my good friends in town hasn’t been very supportive of my writing. She never asks how it is going, or gives me positive feedback on my work. Any time I have a “small win,” she avoids mentioning it. If someone else brings up my writing in a social situation, she either ignores the conversation, is dismissive, or gives a cursory “oh, yeah?”

On the other hand, since I started writing, I’ve made some amazing online friends, all of whom are supportive and happy for my success. It’s like we share in each other’s accomplishments and happiness, and genuinely support each other. How can it be that people I have never met, except online, encourage and support me, while a great friend of many years, living down the street, does not?

I’m not sure if my friend is upset that she isn’t writing herself, as I know she would like to be. My husband keeps telling me this is about her and her own insecurities, and not about me. Whether that is true or not, it still stings. I’m not sure what to do about it. Do I tell her how I’m feeling, and that her lack of support has been upsetting to me? Or do I leave it alone, and simply carry on with my writing?

Sincerely,

At a Loss for Words

Dear At a Loss for Words,

Through my experience as a writer and from years of talking about this type of issue with other writers, I’ve found that family and friends will react in one of five ways to your work.

  1. THEY WILL BE ENTHUSIASTIC

These are the friends who read your work regularly. They send you occasional texts and emails saying, “Really liked this one,” and they may even be supportive on Facebook as well. To keep these friends, you must never, ever assume they have read anything. You are to be surprised and delighted by anyone who has taken the time to read your work.

I’m going to say right now that to expect enthusiasm from anyone in your life, even your spouse, your sister, or your mother, is asking a lot. It’s rare that anyone can keep up with all the work we writers produce. So when you find these people, make sure to come from a place of deep gratitude and appreciation. There is so much out there to read, and if they read your work in any capacity (weekly, monthly, occasionally), then that is extraordinarily generous. Ask them about their jobs and their families constantly because you owe them tons of enthusiasm in return.

  1. THEY WILL BE NEUTRALLY INDIFFERENT

These are the family and friends who know you’re a writer and have seen your work here and there. They ask you about it sometimes, but if they don’t, it’s not for any specific reason just like you might not know the gritty details of their jobs. They are neither excited nor threatened by the topics you cover. I suspect that most family and friends fall in this category, and that is not a bad thing. Ultimately to succeed in this business, your audience has to expand beyond family and close friends anyway. Remember, the family and friends who read your work regularly get your surprise and delight every time!

  1. THEY WILL BE CONFUSED

These folks say things like “I just don’t understand the internet or blogs.” This reaction is genuine and not meant to be hurtful, but starts to feel like passive-aggressive criticism when it goes on for years.

  1. THEY WILL BE DISINTERESTED

The family and friends in this category do not read your work and they do not ask you about it even if you ask about their jobs or passions. It’s worth mentioning that they may also be the types who are not good at asking questions in a conversation. That is why disinterest can feel personal, but it truly could be a matter of poor social skills.

It’s important to remember that not everybody likes to read, not everybody likes to read online, and nobody will be as interested in our writing as we are. That said, do I think it’s irritating if you’re always asking about someone’s life and she never asks about yours even if she’s not particularly fond of essays or whatever else you write? Yes. It’s especially rude and awkward if you’re supposedly good friends. People do not have to actually read your work to ask about how things are going. It’s called good manners.

  1. THEY WILL BE DISAPPROVING

These are the people who read your work and see your activity online, but do not like what you are saying and doing. They may openly let you know, or they may choose to act disinterested to avoid letting you know directly. No matter how the message gets across, being on the other end of disapproval never feels good.

So, what about your friend?

It’s hard to know whether your friend falls into “neutrally indifferent” of your work, “disinterested” or “disapproving.” But now I’m going to tell you the hardest truth. You have to force yourself to forget about winning this friend’s interest, support, and approval.

I want you to learn from my mistakes. Until recently I spent far too much time worried about the few people in my life who fall into the disinterested and disapproving categories. I was also too attached to the enthusiastic ones. The peace of mind of not needing so much approval from those giving it and from those withholding it would have been better for my relationships, my confidence, and my writing.

I also want to say that I think we can get overly fixated on changing the mindset of a particular person. You have to ask yourself why this one friend’s lack of support is bothering you so much. Do her doubts mirror your own? Is her refusal to acknowledge your success holding you back from settling into the writing identity?

Bottom line: You do not have to end this friendship, but you have to stop hoping she will like your work or even acknowledge it. I think your husband is right that her inability to show any interest in what you’re doing (even as a friend if not a reader) is her issue to face and not yours.

You asked: “How can it be that people I have never met, except online, encourage and support me, while a great friend of many years, living down the street, does not?

The enthusiasm of fellow writers, even those we’ve never met in person, is impossible to match because we’re members of the same team. We understand the challenges of getting work accepted for publication and the harder challenge of getting eyes on that work.

You also asked: “Do I tell her how I’m feeling, and that her lack of support has been upsetting to me? Or do I leave it alone, and simply carry on with my writing?”

If your friend continues to act as if this important piece of your life does not exist, it’s only logical that you will want to spend less time with her. It’s not like you’re a drug dealer asking for her approval. While I believe it’s unreasonable to expect your friends to read your work, it is reasonable to expect them to acknowledge its place in your life, even if just in casual conversation. If you miss the time you used to spend with your friend, or if she misses you and asks what’s going on, I think it’s only fair to tell her that you want to be able to talk about your writing just as she is able to talk about what matters to her.

Fellow writers, what advice do you have? Should this week’s letter writer confront her friend or let it go? What would YOU do?

 

 

FULL RES - Badzin-03 copy-1Nina is a contributing writer for Tcjewfolk.com, Kveller.com, and Great New Books. Her essays have appeared regularly at Brain, Child Magazine, The Huffington Post, The Jewish Daily Forward, and have been syndicated in The Times of Israel as well as Jewish newspapers across the country. She lives in Minneapolis with her husband and four children. Contact her on Twitter @ninabadzin and on her blog.

 

 

 

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45 comments

  1. Donna Trump says:

    I think you really nailed this one, Nina. We writers try to support each other, and sometimes it’s more than even we can do, so we have to kind of give a pass to people who really have no understanding of what this business is about. Could the friend be jealous? Sure, but that is such a short-sighted, ungenerous response I would be far more concerned about flawed character than about day-to-day indifference to a friend’s writing efforts.
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  2. Kristen says:

    Once again, you nailed it, Nina. I have friends and family in all five categories. The ones in #5 hurt the most, no question. But over time (now 4 years in) I’ve found that the 2-3 consistent folks I have in #1 and the larger handful in #2, together with the super supportive online writer friends, make up for it. They really do, and I am so grateful for them. It took a while for me to get to this place of peace. I realized it’s really more about them (those folks in #5) than me. I can’t fix that. And you’re so right about that last part: “it is reasonable to expect them to acknowledge its place in your life, even if just in casual conversation.” When it barely or never happens, I now find myself disengaging in similar fashion (though that’s harder with family). I don’t need people closest to me to read my stuff all the time, but, like any other profession, even an occasional “how’s the writing going?” goes a long way. I definitely got asked far more about work when I was a practicing attorney than I do now as a fledgling writer. It is a stark contrast, actually. I’m mostly over it now because *I* know what I am doing is legitimate (and even occasionally, results in some decent stuff).
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  3. Susan says:

    This is exactly what I’m experiencing now–and being on social media just exacerbates who is acknowledging and who is not.

  4. While I am glad all my friends read, appreciate and acknowledge this certain “space” in my life, sometimes the total dismissal of a close relative to look at my writing as my intrinsic need both confuses and pains me. I am glad I read this lovely piece today 🙂
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  5. Ann says:

    Nina,

    I love this question and your response! Having friends or family dismiss your work, or not acknowledge it at all can be so disheartening. But I love your advice that we need to get to the “peace of mind of not needing so much approval from those giving it and from those withholding it.” So perfect! Looking for either takes away from what we should be doing! Thanks for the reminder!
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  6. Allie says:

    Oh Nina, you are so wise. I loved this post and every one of your types makes sense. I remember, back when I started, reading your post about how loved ones would not be the people who read my blog. I was baffled at first, and then hurt when it turned out that you were right!. I get it now, and it doesn’t bother me – at all. And sometimes they will surprise me with a comment – in real life and on-line and it’s gratifying. So, I do think she should let it go with her friend. She may never know the answer. I’ve learned to embrace my cyber-cheerleaders! And honestly, when I worked in the accounting world – non of my non-work friends asked me how an audit was going, or if I finally reconciled the A/R account.
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  7. I am constantly amazed at all the questions I can relate to in this advice column. Truly, I could have written each one.

    I have two very close people in my life that fall into this category. It boggles my mind how much they ignore this part of my life. I totally agree that it is bad manners to not even ask how it’s going. I don’t care that they don’t read anything, truly I don’t. I’m thrilled that ANYONE reads anything I wrote so to expect that would be too much.

    To me, it’s like trying to ignore looking at a wart on someone’s chin/nose/whatever. It’s damn hard to do but that’s what it feels like when people close to me never acknowledge my passion for writing.

    I’ve learned to let it go and be satisfied that I’m writing to fill a need within myself rather than to win anyone’s approval or get their attention. Their blatant ignorance of our work hurts but it feels worse to dwell on it. My philosophy these days is to not dwell on what I DON’T have and focus my gratitude on what I do. My advice is to be grateful and thank those who read, comment, and ask about your writing. Let them know how much you appreciate it.
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  8. Gay Yellen says:

    I, too, was expecting more support from my closest friend when my book launched. She is a woman of influence, and it took a lot of self-talk for me to get over my dashed expectations. I once learned from a very wise person that if we get our feelings stepped on, maybe we were sticking them out too far in the first place. This helped me realize that I was projecting grandiose expectations onto her responsibilities as a friend. She has supported my book in smaller ways, and for that I am grateful.

    • Nina says:

      Gay, thank you for bringing this point up about book support. I think this is an issue especially between writers. The longer I’m in this community, the more writing buddies I have with books out. I simply cannot read, review, and promote each and every one of them without my own readers and followers growing weary of my recommendations. And I take my recommendations really seriously. (Those recommendations are a big part of my blog.) I cannot say everything is “amazing” or “stunning.” But more to that point, I cannot read every single book out there. This speaks to the great success of many of my writing friends. There are many books out there now by people I know! And as much I’d love to champion each and every author and book, it’s really not possible. I do what I can though, and I just hope that people understand. Sometimes I get three requests in a week. I hate to say, but sometimes I have to.
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  9. This is such a part of the writing life, and I’ve experienced all these reactions in some form or another… and at different levels. Actually, only a few of my friends (and none of my family) ask spontaneously ask how my writing is going. Maybe partly because they’ve grown to understand it’s a long process? But to be fair, I don’t always ask how friends’ jobs are going — unless there is a specific reason, for instance one friend has just started a new business and I know how consuming it is or another friend has recently gone back to school. I wonder if sometimes we (as writers) are so consumed with our projects that we want others to have the same enthusiasm and intensity we have? I know I often catch myself talking too much about writing to my non-writing friends. Also, since writing sounds like it’s a recent development, the two friends must have other mutual interests. Maybe her friend feels like they’re losing the things that brought them together?

    This sentence makes me wonder if there’s more to the story: “I’m not sure if my friend is upset that she isn’t writing herself, as I know she would like to be.” Does this mean they’ve talked in the past about her friend’s desire to write? That would be another reason for me to focus on other mutually shared interests with that friend — I’d hate to make her feel like I was competing or even comparing.
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  10. I love this question and as always, your response, Nina, is exactly on point. I suspect many of us have friends in all 5 categories. Initially, it bothered me that a few friends never asked about my writing or any aspect of my writing life, but then I decided that I couldn’t be too greedy. There are several online and offline friends that support my artistic endeavors and genuinely offer support whenever they can. To those who are in my life and don’t always demonstrate an interest in my writing, I direct the conversation to pursuits and topics we enjoy. Friends come in varying seasons and subjects too. It isn’t always black and white.

    I love this column! xo
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  11. Well said, Nina. Writers (I’m including myself here) seek validation because we pour so much of our heart and soul into our work. It’s an extension of ourselves. A lack of interest in our writing is often mistaken as a lack of interest in us.

    I also think that sometimes friends and family may not ask about our writing because, as Julia said, it’s a long process. Maybe they don’t know what to say in the face of the rejection letters and non-responses from editors. My mom once said, “I know that when you have good news, you’ll let me know.” 🙂
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  12. Diann says:

    This is such a great topic, and you have loads of good points in your answer. Given what At a Loss wrote, there definitely seems like there is *something* going on, and given that it is a good friend, I think it’s definitely worth bringing up. In a totally curious and not defensive way. Just wanting to collaborate and get to the bottom of it.

    That said, many people don’t tend to talk a lot about work per se. It’s like you get enough of it there, and really what your family and friends may care about is more the person who’s right in front of them and the common experiences and interests they share. They can forget that your work is very meaningful to you. This is especially true if the subject matter is really outside their interests or the piece is quite long or they just don’t really understand what it is you do.

    So maybe that’s part of it. Does AaL ask her friend about her interests or did they only ever talk about common interests? Before the writing, did they have a common ground that now the friend feels like she lost? Like maybe they did yoga together but AaL no longer wants to talk about that, only writing? Or some other change that isn’t in the question. No matter what else is going on, I suspect there’s a shift, and possibly that shift is at the heart of the seeming lack of interest (whether warranted or not).

    Anyway, another great column!

  13. lisa romeo says:

    Lots of good points made here.
    I came to a point years ago of no longer caring what my non-writer friends had to say or not say about any aspect of my writing life, for many reasons.
    Mostly, they just don’t get it and that’s fine, it’s not their sandbox. And let’s face it, to an outsider, a writing life looks confusing, missing many of the typical markers by which to judge success. Sometimes it’s damn counterintuitive (What do you mean you’re not getting paid for that?).
    But the biggest factor in my no longer seeking the feedback of some in-the-flesh friends and relatives is this: it turns out some of the quieter ones have strong opinions about whether or not I have the right to write (nonfiction) the way I choose to, to tell my personal stories.
    When I was less wise, and asked them to read/react, I heard one too many times a remark like, “Well I would never write about (full in blank with any past, possibly controversial or personal experience)” I finally realized that I preferred when they just ignored it!
    Sometimes “no support” is a blessing.
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  14. I love this column, and this post, Nina!
    I almost wish some people would ignore my writing, and just let me get on with it without them hovering, asking when am I going to get published again. That’s so annoying! I miss the days when I kept it secret.

  15. Thank you so much! I have sisters that could not care less about my blog or are critical of what I write. One out of four support me. It is annoying but now I know it is their problem and nothing can be done about it except ignore their opinion of my blog.
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  16. Dakota Nyght says:

    I think you’re spot on, Nina, as so many others have said. I have to agree, with the first commentor. Something about the way the letter is written makes it really sound to me like this other woman is really jealous. Now, why that should be, I don’t know… but the confrontational “oh yeah” comment that the writer is getting in a social situation seems out of line and in keeping with someone who is angry and insecure about their own situation.
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  17. Such a perfect response, except you forgot this subcategory of #1: people who will be so over-the-top supportive of you — based not on any of your writing but just because they are cheerleading YOU and they love you and want to make sure you know it — that they have no objectivity about the quality of your work, they want to read it all, and will bring up your writing to people in uncomfortable and embarrassing situations. They can’t stop asking about it even if you don’t want to talk about it. This will continue even if their intense approval and adoration is overwhelming and you ask them to stop.
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  18. Tamara says:

    This is on point! And I agree that there’s #6 – jealousy. That was my first inkling, actually. I’ve had a lot of great support with my blog for years. When I first started reading this, I confess I was afraid it was being written about ME, until I saw the part about how the friend isn’t writing. And I very much am. I do have a local ex-friend who started blogging and I’m not supportive of her at all, but it’s because she’s horribly obnoxious, smug and competitive about her small blog, and every conversation I used to have with her had me fuming. So I let go!
    Anyway, I’m glad this wasn’t written about me because in ALL other case, I’m 100% supportive of friends blogging. The more, the merrier in this grand world!
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  19. Liz says:

    Well said. There are so many gradations to others’ feelings. It will always be a struggle for me to remember I am writing for me. If I get eyes or laughs, it’s a bonus but I need to find my own fulfillment within it. My only issue is with folks who get mad the one time you don’t cheer them on enough and yet they’ve never been there for you. You can’t base relationships on a mathematic reciprocation, of course, but it can’t all be one way.
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  20. Dana says:

    Ok Nina this is why you have this job, because I read that question and thought, wow, how is she going to answer this, and then I read your response and am like, Oh, right, exactly!

    It took me a while to get that even people I love most may land in the disinterested category, including as of late, my husband. That said, I know he is supportive of me, but reading blogs is not his thing. Not is it many of my friends things. But I’ve gotten to the point where my writing is for me, and my readers, whoever they are, and not about who I think they should be.
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  21. This is beautiful and fantastic all around. Spot on advice. I thought this part was particularly beautiful, though:

    “Until recently I spent far too much time worried about the few people in my life who fall into the disinterested and disapproving categories. I was also too attached to the enthusiastic ones. The peace of mind of not needing so much approval from those giving it and from those withholding it would have been better for my relationships, my confidence, and my writing.”

    It is a continual process for me to not need so much approval — about my writing or anything else. I absolutely agree, though, that getting to that point is so well worth it.
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  22. peg-o-leg says:

    This. Although I could sue you for invasion of privacy for publishing my innermost thoughts, I’ll instead say that this question and response are spot-on for me.

    I’m in a very similar place right now. Having enjoyed some modest success in the blogging world, I took the leap to writing my first paid humor column in a local paper a couple of months ago. I’m excited, proud and scared to put myself out there for people who actually know me in real life.

    My non-supportive friend is my husband. When something big happens on my WordPress blog, like being Freshly Pressed, or chosen as a Recommended Humor Blog, and I’m jumping up and down and screaming, he smiles and offers congratulations, but generally doesn’t seem interested. I thought it was because the blog environment was foreign to him. Now that I’m in black-and-white for all our world to see, however, nothing has changed.

    I think he’s proud of me – sometimes he’ll tell me of friends who have complimented me to him, but he never comments on my work. I never considered that it’s a hell of a burden to be expected to bolster someone else’s fragile ego with constant stroking. That’s what I’ve been expecting, and such a one-sided arrangement isn’t fair.

    Thanks for some much-needed food for thought.
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  23. Your advice is great. I think Beth is onto something with the “batshit jealous” theory, too. Most of my non-writer friends are kind, if not overly enthusiastic about my writing. Very few bother to read it. That we need to expect.

    But there are some who will overtly change the subject or say unkind things when you mention you’ve published a story or had some other “win,” I’ve discovered that those people tended to disappear from my life as my career took off..

    Recently I happened to see one of those former friends on LinkedIn. She’d retired from her teaching job and gave her occupation as “writer”(!) . To my knowledge, she’s never written anything more than a shopping list, but obviously her inability to support my writing journey stemmed from her own thwarted dreams. Batshit jealousy is a pretty good explanation of her behavior to me.
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  24. Writing is such a personal thing and so public at the same time. It can feel like a therapy session in which the therapist sits there checking email on her phone. I think that’s why it’s easy to feel slighted when people don’t respond how you hope they will. But like any job, some people aren’t interested and that’s okay. Especially since on top of it all, they just might not like your writing or what you have to say.
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  25. Maybe because I’ve written for a living my entire adult life, I don’t get bent out of shape about whether people support/read my writing. Now, if I were to have my fiction published, perhaps that would be another story :-). But for my freelance articles and my blog, I figure there are enough other people out there reading that I don’t need to get upset about those who don’t (this was not the case when I started blogging). So, if writing were a new endeavor and I were at the tender beginning stages, I imagine it would sting much more for friends not to be supportive. But as an old 40-something, maybe I don’t care so much anymore and just do these things for me — and others’ opinions be damned. (Said with a smile, but there IS something to letting this kind of hurt roll of your back with age).
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  26. Justine says:

    Your answer is spot on. Hopefully, “At a Loss for Words” feels comforted since many of us have felt unsupported by close friends with respect to our writing. As many comments have mentioned, when close friends ignore our writing it feels like a betrayal because we put so much of ourselves into what we write. The feeling of betrayal is augmented because we are supposed to promote our writing on social media, which can make me, (and I’m sure others) feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable.When our closest friends don’t support us, “like” our essays, it can feel like a personal rejection. It also feeds into our own insecurities, i.e. maybe I’m not a good writer, maybe people don’t take me seriously, etc. Most instances, the friends who ignore our writing are not taking a jab at us, but more likely are busy, not into personal essays, didn’t see it, etc. It is hard to put personal essays out there for the world to see, and although we should do it for ourselves and not rely on the feedback of others, that is very much easier said than done, especially in the age of social media and self promotion.

    I love the question and your advice! You are really good at this. 🙂
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  27. It was a real encouragement to read this! I’ve been puzzled and saddened by the fact that my two closest friends – and I regard them as sisters of my heart – rarely read my blog and never comment on anything I write. They’re both happy for me that I’m doing it, they support the fact that I’ve started writing again … they’re just not sufficiently interested to participate. I’ve found it weird and a little hurtful. It helps to know this is a common theme in other writers’ relationships – and your advice that one should never assume anyone has read anything is timely and valuable. Thank you!

  28. Alison says:

    Nina, you are spot on! Most of my close friends and and family are in the neutral camp and I’m absolutely okay with that. In fact, I actively encourage them to stay there! I understand that my audience is NOT my family, and that has always been so from the start. I don’t write for them specifically. But if they read any of my work, that’s great too.

    I don’t worry about those who don’t, just those who do. In everything 🙂
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  29. Nina says:

    I love your advice to write for yourself, and to not focus so much on trying to convert people to like your stuff. I’d probably let it go. I’m sort of shy with my work, and even have a hard time telling people about it, so I generally wouldn’t bring it up. However, if the friend seems outwardly jealous, then I would ask why she feels that way.
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  30. Katie says:

    I stumbled across this post when I googled, “Am I asking too much for my friend’s support”. Literally. This speaks so close to heart for me. I, too, have just started a blog. I am pursuing my passion to write. Most of my closest friends appear to have zero interest in my blog and writing. To say this is disheartening, is an understatement. I have more support and attention from people I’ve never met. It’s crazy. There is one friend/coworker who loves my writing and can’t seem to get enough of it. I really ought to express my gratitude for her. To the rest, I guess you’re missing out. It hurts though, I get it.

  31. This is so spot on. Two friends in my local circles who I thought would be the least supportive are the ones who have surprised me the most with their interest and outspoken support of my blog and essays. Other friends who “like”and comment on most everything else in my real life and on Facebook, don’t even acknowledge that writer side of me. I get the feeling they wonder who the heck has the time for a blog, much less the time to read them. I can see their point, and I’m not going to try and win them over. Family members were supportive from the get go, but you know, after the initial fanfare, even their interest dies down after awhile. Ultimately it’ll be the encouragement I receive from writers I’ve never even met that will keep me going.
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