Have you ever lost a friend? Was that loss in some ways more painful than the end of a love affair?
In our first collection of stories of friendship by female writers, The HerStories Project: Women Explore the Joy, Pain, and Power, we included a section on friendship loss. The response to that part of the book has fascinated us. Stephanie and I found that we couldn’t stop thinking about this aspect of friendship: Why is it so painful for a friendship to end and why is it so hard for women to talk about?
Again and again, other women — friends, readers, relatives, acquaintances — have told us stories of their own friendship breakups and dissolutions. In their stories, we’ve heard their pain, their shame, their confusion, and their continued sense of deep loss.
Now we’re wondering if you can help us out with our next project: We want to hear your stories of friendships from any time in your life that have ended — from friends who left you or others that you left. The friendship that ended suddenly or the one that faded gradually.
We are happy to announce our call for submissions for our next anthology. This collection — tentatively titled, “My Other Ex: Women’s Stories of Friendship Burnouts, Betrayals, and Breakups”— will include essays about a friendship that has ended. Maybe there was a reconciliation later in time, maybe there wasn’t. Maybe the ending of that bond brought enormous pain or maybe its conclusion brought great relief.
You can also help us out by completing our survey or participating in the project in other ways, such as a private Facebook group or e-mail interviews.
Click below to submit a story to us by February 24, 2014 about a friendship that ended. Submissions should be previously unpublished and between 1000 and 4000 words. (If you have a previously published piece that you would like to rework, feel free to ask us about it too.) Please include a brief biography and your contact information (e-mail, blog address, social media links). E-mail us at email@example.com with any questions! We’re so excited to start this project with all of you!
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