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  • Mothering Through the Darkness: A Call for Submissions and a Writing Contest

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    Stephanie and I began thinking about the topic for our next anthology as soon as we finished gathering submissions for My Other Ex. We had a lot of ideas, but nothing felt like a topic that we urgently wanted to tackle.

    That is, until one of our contributors, Alexandra Rosas, describing her experience with Postpartum Progress and its Climb Out of the Darkness event, suggested postpartum depression. She had been inspired by the stories of the survivors that she met and thought that so many women could benefit from hearing them. As someone who went through my own postpartum struggles, I was immediately drawn to this idea, as was Stephanie.

    Today we’re thrilled to tell you about our next anthology, a call for submissions, and our first writing contest, in partnership and in support of Postpartum Progress.

    MOTHERING THROUGH THE DARKNESS: Stories of Postpartum Struggle

    Approximately 1 in 7 women suffer from postpartum depression after having a baby. Many more may experience depression during pregnancy, postpartum anxiety, OCD, and other mood disorders. Postpartum depression is in fact the most common pregnancy-related complication, more widespread than gestational diabetes, preterm labor, or pre-eclampsia. Yet confusion and misinformation about postpartum depression and anxiety — from their symptoms to timelines to prevalence to treatment — are still widespread. Myths surrounding mothers’ mental health challenges can have devastating effects on women’s well-being as well as their identities as mothers, too often leading to shame and inadequate treatment. Although postpartum and antepartum depression and anxiety are temporary when treated, untreated mood disorders can lead to long-term consequences for both a mother and her child. A mother can feel very alone, ashamed, and hopeless. And keep silent.

    Mothering Through the Darkness: Stories of Postpartum Struggles will be a unique anthology with the goal of breaking that silence.

    With this collection of essays, we will try to dispel these myths and focus on the diversity of women’s experiences, through the voices of mothers themselves.

    We are also thrilled to be partnering with Katherine Stone and Postpartum Progress on this project. Postpartum Progress is a national 501c3 nonprofit organization that is laser-focused on maternal mental health. The organization has three key focus areas: raising awareness, fighting stigma and providing peer support for pregnant and new mothers. Postpartum Progress’ award-winning blog is the most widely read blog in the world on perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, with more than 1.1 million page views each year.

    10% of the profits from the sales of this book will go toward Postpartum Progress and its mission of supporting maternal mental health. Click here to find out more about Postpartum Progress’s work in raising awareness and supporting mothers.

    Call for Submissions: Mothering Through the Darkness

    The best way out is always through.” – Robert Frost

    The HerStories Project is seeking unpublished, first-person essays from mothers about their experiences with postpartum depression, anxiety, or other mental health struggles during or after pregnancy.* We’re looking for well-crafted, true accounts that explore and examine aspects of this experience.

    Submissions must feature a strong and compelling narrative. We’re looking for well-written prose, rich detail, and a strong, distinctive voice. (For more about what we’re looking for, here is an article that I wrote about personal essay writing with a few more suggestions.)

    Guidelines: Previously unpublished and between 1,500 and 3,000 words. Please also submit a short bio of 50-100 words, including previously publications. To submit, see the link at the bottom of this page.

    Deadline: January 1, 2015 *recently extended from December 1st

    * One of the first questions that we got in talking to women that we knew about this project is whether a woman needs to have been formally diagnosed by a medical professional with postpartum depression or another postpartum mood disorder to submit. The answer is no! Postpartum mood disorders are vastly under-identified and under-treated. Many, many new mothers have symptoms that are not fully addressed or explained.

    The symptoms of postpartum depression include: loss of appetite, insomnia, intense irritability and anger, fatigue, loss of joy, mood swings, feelings of guilt and shame. Read more from Postpartum Progress about what PPD feels like, in understandable terms, and see if any of these symptoms matched your own experience.

    The Writing Contest

    Your submission to Mothering Through the Darkness will be simultaneously entered into the first HerStories Project Writing Contest. (see details below) The HerStories Project will award $500 to one submission for Best Essay and $100 to two runners-up. All three essays will be published in the book, and each winner will receive a paperback copy.

    To cover the costs of sponsoring the contest, we are asking for a $10 reading fee. If this fee presents a financial hardship that would otherwise prevent you from submitting an essay, we will waive this fee and this will not affect the status of your entry.

    To submit, see the link at the bottom of this page.

    Judges: The essays will be judged by the editors of the HerStories Project, as well as several talented writers whose lives as mothers or as clinicians have been affected by postpartum depression and anxiety. These judges will include Lisa Belkin, Kate Hopper, Katrina Alcorn, Julia Fierro, Dr. Jessica Zucker, and Lindsey Mead. Essays will be judged on their emotional power, originality, and quality of their prose.

    Judge bios:

    Katrina Alcorn is the author of Maxed Out: American Moms on the Brink. She is a writer and a design consultant. She holds a master’s degree in journalism and documentary filmmaking from UC Berkeley and blogs at WorkingMomsBreak.com.

    Lisa Belkin is the Senior National Correspondent for Yahoo News. Previously she has held staff positions at the New York Times and The Huffington Post. She is the author of three books and the editor of two anthologies.

    Julia Fierro is the founder of The Sackett Street Writers’ Workshop. A graduate of the Iowa Writers’ Workshop, she recently published her first novel, Cutting Teeth, an Oprah Pick of the Week.

    Kate Hopper is the author of Ready for Air: A Journey through Premature Motherhood and Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers. Kate holds an MFA in creative writing from the University of Minnesota and has been the recipient of a Fulbright Scholarship, a Minnesota State Arts Board Grant, and a Sustainable Arts Grant. She teaches classes and holds retreats for mother writers.

    Lindsey Mead is a corporate headhunter with an MBA from Harvard who also writes for her popular blog, A Design So Vast. Her work has been featured in numerous anthologies.

    Jessica Zucker, PhD is a psychologist specializing in women’s reproductive and maternal mental health. A consultant to PBS’ This Emotional Life and the Every Mother Counts campaign with Christy Turlington, she has been a contributor to NPR and is currently writing her first book for Routledge on maternal attachment.

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    To submit your essay to the editors of The HerStories Project, please visit here:
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    If you are entering the HerStories Project Writing Contest, please click here to pay the $10 reading fee. If you would like the fee to be waived, please mention this in your submission.

    (Note: If you are submitting only to be considered for publication in the book — not to the contest — after you click the “Submit” button, please select “Mothering Through the Darkness: Stories of Postpartum Struggle.” If you are submitting to the contest — as well as to the book — please select the “HerStories Project Writing Contest.”)

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  • Announcing The HerStories Project’s Next Writing Class!

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    We are excited to announce our next fall writing course, Writing Your Way to a Better Blog, coming October 27th!
    This six-week class will help you develop the skills needed to write high-quality blog posts, including how to blog with authentic voice and purpose, how to write a clear and compelling Bio page, how to incorporate storytelling, how to infuse humor, how to write engaging interview posts, and how to become a better editor of your own writing.

    Co-taught by HerStories Project co-editors Jessica Smock and Stephanie Sprenger, this class will feature guest instructors, including many of your favorite bloggers and editors, such as Norine Dworkin-McDaniel of Science of Parenthood, Danielle Herzog of Martinis and MinivansKate Hall of Can I Get Another Bottle of Whine?, and Sarah Rudell Beach of Left Brain Buddha. It will also features tips and advice from Jill Smokler of Scary MommyNicole Leigh Shaw of Ninja Mom, Leslie Marinelli of In the Powder Room, Susan Maccarelli of Beyond Your Blog, writer and HerStories advice columnist Nina BadzinJen Mann of People I Want to Punch in the Throat, Shannon Lell of Mamapedia, Lauren Apfel of Omnimom (and Debate Editor of Brain, Child Magazine), Jenn Rose of Something Clever 2.0, Galit Breen of These Little Waves, Val Curtis of Bon Bon Break, and Lindsey Mead of A Design So Vast.

    It’s not always easy for bloggers to find their way in a crowded, overwhelming blogosphere. Whether you are a brand new blogger or an experienced writer looking for new ideas and techniques to develop and refine your authentic voice, this class is for you! With guidance and tips from a diverse group of experienced bloggers, Writing Your Way to a Better Blog is an interactive online course that will help you gain practical knowledge to improve your writing and your blog.

    One of the most rewarding aspects of online writing courses is the opportunity to interact and exchange ideas with other bloggers, and to become part of a community. Bloggers who enroll in the class will also have access to a private Facebook group for members, instructors, and guest instructors—it’s a great opportunity to learn from and connect with other writers in a welcoming environment.

    Classes starts October 27th and end December 5th. SIGN UP TODAY! Please visit our brand new HerStories Project Writing Classes website for more information

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  • Yoga Bonding

    We’re delighted to be sharing Sarah’s story of friendship during her first years of motherhood.  Sarah has a fantastic blog, Left Brain Buddha, where she writes about parenting and mindfulness.

    It’s early evening, and I’m six months pregnant with my first child, walking my dog after prenatal yoga class. Not one minute into my walk, a pregnant woman comes running out of her house waving at me. “Hey! We’re in the same yoga class!”

    We had been neighbors for months, and had never met. Yet our due dates were only two days apart. We were both pregnant with girls. We both loved yoga. We would be giving birth at the same hospital. I love synchronicity!

    We got together a few times before our children were born, but we really came to know each other once we entered first-time motherhood together. Our girls ended up being born five days apart.

    When my daughter was three months old, I took her to our first Yoga Bonding class ~ and there was my new friend, too! I loved these Wednesday yoga classes. We joked about how that one-hour yoga class managed to fill up the whole day — figuring out how to get Mom and baby dressed, fed, and inevitably re-dressed to make it to class by 11:15, scheduling naps around class, then bundling the babies back up in their carseats to get them home in a frigid January, followed by napping and recovering from yoga. That’s an exhausting day for a new mama!

    And I craved that kind of structure and time with a friend during my days as a new mom. I had a rough time in those first months of motherhood. My daughter woke almost hourly during the night, napped for only 30 minutes at a time, and spent many of her waking hours crying — and so did I. I didn’t realize it at the time, but what I took for “baby blues” had progressed into postpartum depression. Despite going to yoga bonding, I didn’t feel I was bonding with my daughter. Motherhood felt like a job I approached intellectually, rather than a passion I pursued out of love. My friends spent their days at work. I felt isolated and thought I was a terrible mother.

    And then at one of our Yoga Bonding classes, my friend asked me if my husband and I would babysit her daughter for a few hours one evening. I felt so honored and flattered and relieved by the request. I was touched that she trusted me to watch her little girl, and it reassured an insecure new mom that at least someone thought I was doing things right. She’s trusting me with her child!

    The night my husband and I babysat, I came to two important realizations: first, It is way harder to have two infants at once, and second, I really had bonded with my daughter. While I loved cradling my friend’s sweet child in my arms, my heart ached. I wanted to be holding my baby! Even though I’d spent the entire day carrying her as she fussed, I longed to hug and kiss her again and sing her to sleep.

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    Caring for another baby made me realize how in tune I was with my own daughter ~ my friend’s little one took her bottle differently, cried differently, needed to be soothed differently, and, holy cow, could that child spit up!

    Our families began to spend a lot time together: dinner gatherings (which usually began around 4:45 pm to accommodate baby bedtimes), long daytime walks around the neighborhood and the lakes, and lots of playdates (if they can be called that when the kids can’t even walk.) But at that age (and maybe all ages), the playdates are more for the moms, right? I treasured the laughter, the conversation, the advice, and the confessions that my friend and I shared.

    Our girls grew up together, played together, and spent every Sunday morning together while their dads walked them in their strollers to go to the local coffee shop for donuts. Then the six of us would spend a leisurely morning on our patio, enjoying coffee, sweets, and company while the girls played.
    We moved on to Yoga for Crawlers. First birthday parties. Trick-or-Treating. Second children.

    And just when I got pregnant with my second child, they moved away! It was hard to see my mama-friend, and my daughter’s best bud, leave. Even the baristas at the coffee shop expressed their sadness that our little girls wouldn’t continue to grow up together.

    We keep in touch now through Facebook and social media. When our children get together for visits, even though the girls are now almost seven, and they were separated when they were two, it’s like they’ve been girlfriends for a long time.

    I know the feeling. Here’s to yoga bonding.

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    Sarah Rudell Beach, is a teacher, wife, and a mother to two energetic little ones. At Left Brain Buddha she explores ideas and practices for mindfulness, and shares the challenges and riches in her journey to live and parent mindfully in a left-brain, analytical life. She encourages you to discover the amazing transformations that can occur when we not only indulge, but learn to tame, our monkey minds.

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