Stephanie and I first bonded and ultimately began The HerStories Project over the love of a shared book. We’re both big readers. We love finding new books, talking about them, and interviewing authors about their projects and their writing process.

Here are some of our favorites…. Please give us suggestions as well!


She Matters: A Life in Friendships by Susanna Sonnenburg.  The memoir of friendship stories that first inspired our reflections about our own relationships.

MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend by Rachel Bertsche.  This is a memoir about Rachel — a married white female — and her quest for Miss Right, a new best friend, after she moves to Chicago to be with her new husband.  Also, check out her blog based on the book.

Friendfluence:  The Surprising Ways That Friendships Make Us Who We Are by Carla Flora.  An examination of friendship based on research evidence and women’s own stories by a journalist and former Psychology Today editor.

Friendships Don’t Just Happen!  A Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends by Shasta Nelson.  A guide for how to create friendships in today’s busy world by the CEO of GriendFriendCircles.Com.

Twisted Sisterhood:  Unraveling the Dark Mysteries of Female Friendships by Kelly Valen.  After the public response to a New York Times essay about her own painful girlfriend experiences, Valen began a national survey of female friendship and came up with some tough conclusions about the legacy of female friendship.

Friendkeeping: A Field Guide to the People You Love, Hate, and Can’t Live Without by Julie Klam. A funny examination of modern-day friendships. A mix of memoir and sharp observation about modern life.

Truth & Beauty by Ann Patchett. An unforgettable story of the friendship between two writers. Ann Patchett is a versatile and astounding writer. In this memoir, she describes the way that her life became intertwined with her best friend’s tragic and complicated life.

Let’s Take the Long Way Home: A Memoir of Friendship by Gail Caldwell. Another profound memoir about the friendship between two talented, independent writers. Caldwell provides an intimate look at the two women’s shared history of long walks, dogs, and deep trust before her friend’s death from cancer.


We’d love to take reader recommendations to add to this page! What are your favorite novels or nonfiction books about female friendships?