My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Losing and Leaving Friends
Have you ever lost a friend? Was that loss in some ways more painful than the end of a love affair?
Women’s friendships so often come to a crossroads at which time two women can try to hold on to the friendship, staying connected, or the friends can take two completely separate paths without each other.
Many of the essays in this book are about this moment in time, when both rupture and new beginnings are possible.
There are so many ways that friendships can end, and this book describes 35 of them, from talented and accomplished contributors. At the heart of each essay is the recognition from each writer that she has lost something very real and very personal, a connection that will never be forgotten.
“There is little in life more heartbreaking than the friend break-up. My Other Ex may not take away all of the pain, but it reminds us that we aren’t the only ones who’ve struggled with such intense feelings of loss and sorrow, and can be an incredibly valuable step in moving on. Unfortunately, I speak from experience!” — Jill Smoker, author of Confessions of a Scary Mommy
“Friendships between women simmer with force and tenacity, tenderness and manipulation, confidences and compassion. Then, sometimes, the simmer increases to a burn. My Other Ex collects stories of burn-out, the slow burn, and the uncontrolled wildfire. Each reader will find someone she knows here, including herself.” — Susanna Sonnenberg, author of She Matters: A Life in Friendships
“My Other Ex is a collection of beautiful and touching essays exploring the pain and confusion of getting dumped by, breaking up with, or simply drifting away from a once-loved friend. While our culture recognizes the difficulty of romantic break-ups, we don’t always acknowledge the often sad–or even traumatic– consequences of friendship rifts. Reading these essays will offer the comfort of understanding and recognition to those who have lost a friend of their own.” — Carlin Flora, author of Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are
“Many times we assume that only romantic breakups pack an emotional punch. Here comes a riveting collection of stories that delves into what women have discovered all too often– that friendship breakups mark our lives in very significant ways. It’s a fascinating look into the complexities of these relationships– not only the pain, but the growth and meaning that mark these transitions in our lives.” — Andrea Bonoir, Ph.D., author of The Friendship Fix: The Complete Guide to Choosing, Losing, and Keeping Up With Your Friends
These pages beautifully capture the intensity and intimacy of female best-friendship, and, with the benefit of hindsight, lay bare the profound absence that so often follows a friendship’s mysterious end. — Peyton Price, Author of Suburban Haiku
“Reading the stories of the beautiful women who so eloquently shared their stories, I couldn’t help but think of my losses and replay them over and over. I wondered why they are beyond repair, why I cannot go back and fix them, and why this kind of “break-up” has to happen. Women reaching out and sharing their stories is the best way to move through the pain and realize that losing a friend is not a reflection of self-worth, but rather a natural evolution of consciousness. Reading My Other Ex has nudged me to dig a little deeper this time into the places where friendships can get stuck, those places where we have to choose how to keep or end the relationship.” — Patti Ashley, PhD, LPC, author of Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype