Laura Miller Arrowsmith is a teacher, writer, and mother. Her writing reflects her ongoing desire to capture and describe the often lonely, deeply vexing times of motherhood so that others might laugh, cry and share in that universal longing to be a good parent, or at least good enough. She has published numerous essays and articles on parenting, faith, and community building in Mamalode, Brain, Child Magazine, the Loudoun Times Mirror, and the Washington Post Magazine. She lives in Leesburg, VA with her husband and three children.
“When you adopt a child, everyone expects you to be happy because you have finally completed a very long process and fulfilled your dreams. I decided to write about my nightmarish experience because I didn’t expect to feel deep isolation and failure – the two worst feelings for any mother. I want other mothers to know that the first months of adoption sometimes require a special kind of support system, one where you must make a plan for survival each day, and one that requires you to continually reach out and ask for help. Eventually the heavy fog of depression does lift and there is a beautiful child ready to be loved, worth every minute of the struggle and stress you went through.”