Jill Robbins is a wannabe wine snob and sometime runner from San Antonio, Texas. She has a degree in social psychology which has so far been unhelpful in understanding the behavior of her husband and three children. She writes about adoption, motherhood and midlife on her blog, Ripped Jeans and Bifocals. Jill is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Blunt Moms Babble, and Mamalode. She’s also been published in The Washington Post’s On Parenting and is a proud member of the 2015 cast of Listen to Your Mother, Austin. Her work has also been featured on Scary Mommy, Mamapedia Voices, In the Powder Room, SheKnows Parenting, Midlife Boulevard, Beyond Your Blog and other places around the internet. Her print publications include the December 2014 issue of Mamalode and three upcoming anthologies about motherhood. She someday hopes to write the books that are living in her head.
“My essay tells the story of my inner turmoil during the first few months following the adoption of our son in 2013. Most people think the post adoption period is like a honeymoon…idyllic. The child you waited for is in your arms and all should be right with the world. While I wasn’t clinically diagnosed with post-adoption depression, I experienced a significant amount of panic, guilt and frustration over my feelings for my new child. I am telling my story in the hopes of raising awareness that ‘baby blues’ can happen when families grow through adoption. Post adoption depression is real and it might be happening to someone you know.”
“Had I felt more comfortable talking about my feelings while I was going through my own struggles, the effects might have been very minimal. Because I didn’t, they festered. They were toxic. I am hoping that someone – even one person – will read my story and realize that adoptive parents can struggle, too.”